“Although it’s okay to make minor adjustments to your personality to make friends, it’s important that you keep the core of your identity and your beliefs intact to avoid making friends for the wrong reasons.”
Teenagers should definitely keep this in mind when they are trying to make friends. Too many times, teens change who they are, what they like, and how they act in order to make friends. However, if they change too much about themselves, they will make friends for all of the wrong reasons. Actually, they probably will not make real friends if they change too much about themselves. Their “friends” will think that they are someone they are not. For example, a teenage boy may pretend to love playing tennis in order to make friends. It may work for awhile, but eventually, when he is asked to play tennis with his new friends and has no idea what the rules are or even how to hit the ball, they will find out that he was lying about his love for the game and will most likely reject him for it, or at least label him as a liar. When this happens, the boy will be back where he started, on the outside staring in.
On the other hand, if teenagers are themselves and don’t try to do anything too drastic to fit in, they will make true friends. It may take more time, but eventually they will find someone else who really does have the same interests as them. This is the basis of a true friendship. By having a true friendship, or multiple friendships, teens will feel accepted and in turn, will be happier.
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I agree with you, people change who they are just to be accepted. Can it be, sometimes, that when people change who they are, it's because that's what they've always done? That sometimes people don't know their own identities, so that when they make new "friends" who like this or that, they're convinced that they like this or that too?
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